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I was born in Kansas City Missouri on November 25,1945. and given up for adoption nine days later. Adoption was finalized in March of 1949. For the most part I had a happy carefree childhood. I grew up in an upper middle class community the only child of my aparents Harold and Dolores Kelley, The only bad part of my adoption for me was the anomosity that my adad family felt toward me. His mother hated me and made no bones about it! She was often heard to say that no ones thrown away child was part of her family and that she would see to it that I would never have information on my birth family. She did a pretty good job of it to, made me afraid to even think of searching for them. She burnt or in someway destroyed any information that my parents had. She was also successful in removing my non id from court records. I know that sounds hard to believe, but she and my grandfather were very influencial people in Jackson County in the 1940's. As a result of her actions I am now completely estranged from that side of family. I have been married three times and have divorced twice. My first husband and I had three daughters and were married for almost 20 years, before I decided that even if I was a throw away I did not need to put up with his abuse both emotional and physical. The final straw there was the need to protect my children from him as he tried to kill the two youngest ones. My second marriage was a way to escape the part of the world that I associated with the abuse , He offered financial security for the girls and me and a way to move to an area that they were not know as the kids of a rogue cop (first hubby). We stayed married until the girls were of age and he was there adopted dad. He adopted them when we moved to Iowa and thus got rid of all physical evidence of their past. Even though we divorced we remained friends until his death in 1991. I am now married to a great guy and this time it was a marriage for me. I feel great about this marriage and even though he is several years younger than me we have a good life. He is well accepted by my kids and he is the grandpa to my 8 grandchildren. My only family now is my hubby and kids and gkids, as I have no contact with either side of my parents families. I have been searching half heartedly for several years and while I would like to know if I have siblings, have medicial info and heritage info , I have no desire to meet these people. I guess that goes back to being told for to long that I was a throw away and at many times in my life that is exactly how I have felt.